2018 Film Challenge: 17. 45 Years

45 Years is a film I downloaded not that long ago. I was browsing highly rated films on Metacritic and thought it sounded interesting. It’s about a couple who have been married 45 years and how their relationship is affected by the discovery of the body of the man’s first love. Not in a murder mystery way – he didn’t kill her or anything – it just explores that fear of ‘what if the person I’ve spent most of my life with would rather have been with someone else? What if I was always second best?’ It’s an awful thought and feeling and really well expressed in the film. Charlotte Rampling’s great in it. However, I found myself wanting more from it. I feel like I could have just read the synopsis of the film and imagined for myself what that kind of relationship would be like. I didn’t feel like the film itself gave me anything extra, other than maybe the believably awkward sex scene, which was uncomfortably well done.

Here are my notes made whilst watching it:

  • The Tollund Man! School flashbacks.
  • Is this set prior to Google Translate?
  • I like photos and their memory evoking quality
  • Those have got to be the least sexy pants ever
  • She’s meant to be her friend?
  • Attics are creepy
  • Slideshows in the attic. That’d be a good indie band name.
  • Oh god. He kept that quiet.
  • He took his ukulele to the party?
  • I can’t judge what that emotion is at the end – I guess intentionally
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One Response to 2018 Film Challenge: 17. 45 Years

  1. Crashing Elliptical says:

    This was another film I’d never heard of before this challenge, and it was another one I rented via Amazon Video.

    Overall, I liked this, although I can see what you mean about wanting more from it. I thought Charlotte Rampling and Tom Courtenay were both very good in it, and I thought that the range of emotions both of them displayed in the film were all very believable. I can understand how they would both feel quite conflicted in the situation that was presented. I especially liked this at the end, where Kate was obviously partly moved by Geoff’s speech, but unable to shake the feelings of being second-best that had obviously crept into her mind. Her becoming more rigid as the dance went on suggests that this would be something that would not just go away overnight, a kind of bitter sweet ending I suppose.

    In conclusion, I found this quite thought provoking, wondering how I would feel in both Geoff and Kate’s situations.

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